There’s a good reason why What To Expect When You’re Expecting became a best-selling book. (Although there’s not really a good reason why it was made into a confusing flop of a film.) Despite the fact that humans have been giving birth for thousands of years, being pregnant and giving birth remain a mystery to many of us.
Beyond complaints of back pain and weird food cravings, people don’t necessarily share when it comes to the finer points of pregnancy. What does it feel like? Will I really have to pee all the time? How am I supposed to sleep? My feet will get how big? What do you MEAN, I’ll probably poop?!?!
So, What Do You Expect?
It goes without saying that having a baby is a life-changing experience. Many people think of this sort of abstractly, in terms of lifestyle: welcoming a new life and forming a family. But the changes actually go far above and beyond that. There are physical and physiological changes, changes in the way the brain works, and changes in the way people treat you.
Each trimester has its own set of challenges to face.
The First Steps
From the very moment of conception, the body begins a series of changes. Although they may not be noticeable on the outside, they’re definitely happening. Of course, at this point, many women may not even know that they’re pregnant. Immediately after fertilization, the newly fertilized egg begins moving down the fallopian tube before attaching itself to the uterine wall.
About a day into the journey, cell division begins within the fertilized egg. This starts the process that will turn that ball of cells into an embryo, then a fetus, and eventually a baby.
What to Expect in the First Trimester
Pregnancy is generally broken down into three trimesters of about three months, or 14 weeks each. In the first 14 weeks of pregnancy, many of the typical symptoms or side effects of pregnancy set in. These include ones like nausea, morning sickness, and tender breasts. While these may be the ones we’re familiar with from movies or TV, along with the classic “eating for two” chestnut, another major change happens to the body.
Pregnant women begin to breathe in a way that takes in 40% more air—literally breathing for two!
Of course, these aren’t the only symptoms. Many women experience bleeding in the first trimester, which can be extremely scary. Most of the time it’s harmless. If it’s severe or accompanied by cramping, it could be a sign of a serious complication, like miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy, and should be addressed with a doctor immediately.
Other symptoms of pregnancy that occur during the first trimester include discharge, fatigue, frequent urination, and weight gain. It’s a real non-stop thrill ride! More significant symptoms that could point to dangerous complications include intense abdominal pain, serious bleeding, and rapid weight gain.
Anyone who experiences these symptoms in the first trimester should see a doctor immediately.
Doctor, Doctor, Give Me the News
Anyone who is planning to get pregnant should begin seeing a doctor beforehand anyway, but once you are pregnant, getting good pre-natal care from a health professional can greatly increase your chances of a safe and smooth pregnancy. Taking a folic acid supplement can also help reduce the chance of birth defects when you’re expecting.
Your body may also require more calcium to help the baby develop. While you may not be showing signs of pregnancy outwardly yet, there’s a lot of rapid development going on inside, and your doctor will be able to hear the baby’s heartbeat around the 10th or 11th week of pregnancy.
What to Expect in the Second Trimester
If you were afflicted by morning sickness and fatigue in your first trimester, good news. It should clear up in the second trimester, with relatively smooth sailing throughout this important time in your pregnancy. In fact, it’s recommended that women who are expecting take this relatively easy time in the pregnancy to plan for what will happen after the baby arrives—from the birth plan to the baby’s room to arrangements for maternity and paternity leave.
Despite this being the “easy” trimester, pregnant women at this point may experience back pain, breast enlargement, frequent urination, hair growth, headaches, congestion, heartburn, constipation, and hemorrhoids. Some half of women will even be afflicted with bleeding gums as a result of increased sensitivity.
As always, the more serious side effects mentioned in the first trimester section (bad pain or cramping, severe bleeding, etc.) should be monitored during this time—if any occur, a visit to the doctor or hospital is in immediate order.
That Pregnancy Glow
While many of the physical symptoms mentioned above can be annoying, it’s also a time for some positive changes as well. The second trimester is the period when some women will experience the stereotypical pregnancy “glow”—a result of fluctuating hormone levels affecting the skin. At around 20 weeks of pregnancy, women who are expecting may also begin to feel fluttering movement in their bellies, in what is known as “quickening.” Exciting!
Also, depending on how you feel about shopping, it may be time to start looking for maternity clothes, as regular-fit jeans may not be cutting it anymore. While we’re speaking of accessories, you may want to get a body pillow to help you adjust to a new sleeping style, now that your belly is growing and your body is changing.
This next part may end up being one of the most important tests you ever take, but there’s no way to study for it. During the second trimester, your doctor may encourage you to take a quad mark screening test, which is meant to screen for Down syndrome and other abnormalities. Alternatively, they may want to test a sample of amniotic fluid.
Between 18 and 22 weeks, it should be time for one of the most exciting clinic visits of all: the mid-pregnancy ultrasound. If the baby is in the right position, the clinician may be able to tell the expecting parents what sex it is. During the midpoint of the pregnancy, the baby will begin to move much more, and it can hear sounds, including the mother’s voice and heart—it may even get startled by some of them.
What to Expect in the Third Trimester
If you’re pregnant or expecting and have made it to the third trimester, you’re almost there! Many of the symptoms that began earlier in the pregnancy, like back pain and breast enlargement, will persist. Some symptoms will be even stronger, like the frequent urge to urinate, which may turn into occasional leakage.
You also may begin to experience new symptoms as well, like spider or varicose veins or swelling in the ankles. Braxton Hicks, or false contractions, can also show up in the third trimester. The third trimester is where the most weight gain takes place, and is also when the shape of the belly shifts as the baby turns downwards in preparation for birth.
When this happens, the pressure of the baby on your lungs will ease up. Nonetheless, the new position will transfer that pressure to the bladder. The combination of weight gain and hormones may also result in certain skin changes, including stretch marks and the linea negra, a dark line that runs down the abdomen. The nipples or areolas may also darken in color.
Your breasts may begin to leak colostrum, a yellow-ish liquid, in preparation for milk production.
There are signs to look for at this time that may indicate early labor, and if any of them occur, the expectant mother should see a doctor or go to a hospital ASAP. These include cramps, leakage of amniotic fluid, and discharge followed by the passage of a mucus plug. If addressed quickly enough, symptoms of early labor can sometimes be reversed.
What to Expect When You Go Into Labor
While you may have been given a due date by your doctor, babies are famously unreliable. So as you approach your due date, look out for typical symptoms of labor. We’ve all heard stories of women being in labor for hours upon hours if not days. However, the body technically begins preparing for labor weeks beforehand—the aforementioned shifting of the baby in the abdomen is part of that.
Of course, one tell-tale sign is the “water breaking”—actually a rupturing of the membranes of the amniotic sac. The majority of pregnant women go into labor within a day of this happening. If they do not, doctors may find it necessary to induce labor. Contractions may start. When they’re roughly 10 minutes apart or less, that indicates the body is going into labor.
Stages of Labor
In the first stage of labor, the cervix begins to expand. If you’re in the hospital, doctors or nurses will frequently measure in order to keep track of the delivery process. As the cervix opens more, contractions will become more painful. Still, it’s not quite time to push yet. You must wait until the cervix is fully open. This is second stage of labor.
What to Expect as You Deliver
Once the cervix is opened, you will be encouraged to push. The combination of contractions and pushing will shuttle the baby down the birth canal. Once the head is free, the doctor will clear the baby’s nose and mouth so it can begin breathing on its own. Then, the woman delivers the baby from the shoulders down.
Once the baby is free and breathing on its own, the umbilical cord can be cut. There is a third and final stage of labor, where the placenta is delivered.
Every Delivery Is Different
Just as every pregnancy is different, so is every delivery. The amount of time that it takes to deliver and the amount of pain experienced varies from woman to woman. There are natural and drug options for pain management, which should be discussed with your OB-gyn long before your due date, so a plan is in place can be adapted depending on how delivery goes along.
What to Expect After Giving Birth
Occasionally, a doctor will make a cut called an “episiotomy” in the area between the vagina and anus in order to help deliver the baby. After the baby is born, the area will be stitched up, which can be painful and uncomfortable. Other painful or annoying aftereffects include sore breasts, constipation, and incontinence.
The Baby Blues
The sheer amount of hormones coursing through your blood, the exhaustion and trauma from the labor itself, and the overwhelming emotions of welcoming a new life into the world can lead to what is often referred to as the “baby blues.” It includes symptoms of sadness, irritability, and crying—but if these persist after the first few days, it may be post-partum depression, which needs to be addressed by a medical professional.
Of course, it’s not all tears. The release of the hormone oxytocin during birth may assist in bonding between the mother and child, and creates a sense of well-being.
What More to Expect
There’s so much more to pregnancy, labor, and delivery than can be contained on one website. Perhaps that’s why the book What to Expect When You’re Expecting has expanded from 351 pages in its first printing to 616 pages in its most recent edition. Even some things that we take for granted, like that baby and mother should have skin-to-skin contact directly after birth, are relatively new ideas in the mainstream.
No one can know everything. However, a little preparation, keeping in close contact with a doctor, and taking it all with a grain of salt can help when you’re wondering what to expect when you’re expecting.
Why Do Dogs Howl? Inside Your Dog’s Mind
Why do dogs howl? Many dog behaviors can be stressful, but the howl is unique. There’s a haunting quality to a dog’s howl that makes it impossible to ignore. All dog owners have felt a pang of regret after putting their pooch in their crate, but when they begin to howl that ear-splitting, mournful keen, it almost instantly becomes unbearable. So, why do dogs howl? Aren’t they supposed to be man’s best friend?
A howl might come out as a yip, or a bark-howl, or a prolonged baying. They all mean different things, but they all come from the same place. To answer the question “why do dogs howl?” we have to remember that inside every dog, from the smallest chihuahua on up, is a wolf. They may have changed a lot since their days in the wild, but their genes hold a memory of that time, and sometimes it has to come out.
The Howling Beast Inside
Wolves and dogs may look extremely different today—picture a wolf, now picture a dachshund—but scientifically, they’re still very similar creatures. The genes of dogs and wolves started to diverge between 20,000 and 40,000 years ago—a blink of an eye as far as evolution is concerned.
It’s almost impossible to say when the first dogs appeared; the path from wolf to dog was extremely gradual. First, relatively docile wolves likely began following around nomadic human hunter-gatherers, feasting off the remains of the large carcasses that humans left behind them. After what was likely millennia, this relationship grew even closer.
As the humans moved around, these wolves followed them. Eventually, their gene pool began to split off from the wolves who stayed in their territories. The human-friendly wolves, who already likely had lower stress-thresholds and flight responses, began to change physically. Their snouts got shorter. Their teeth got smaller. The differences between them and their wolf brethren became more and more distinct.
Man’s Best Friend
Looking at wolves today, they may seem like a far cry from man’s best friend, but they were actually the perfect candidates for domestication. Wolves were around the right size that they could still be controlled, but they were big enough that they could aid in the hunt—and perhaps most importantly, they were extremely social animals.
Even today, wolves live in complex social groups, and they communicate with a vast array of sounds. This trait made them particularly well-suited to understanding and following human commands—but it’s also why our beloved Fidos and Rexes howl, no matter how much we wish they’d stop.
What’s in a Howl?
Amongst their various types of yips and barks, wolves also use howls to communicate a wide variety of things. They howl to assemble their pack before or after a hunt; to raise the alarm if the den is threatened; and to locate each other while in strange territory. Each howl is different. Wolves will also sometimes howl together, harmonizing to make it seem like they’re more numerous than they appear.
This level of communication and cooperation is what makes wolves such effective hunters. It’s baked into their DNA, and while it’s been a while since dogs split off from their wolf ancestors, it hasn’t been long enough for these traits to disappear completely.
Wild and Howling at Heart
The first dog appeared about 14,000 years ago—though to be fair, if you saw that pup today, it would still look a lot like a wolf. It wasn’t until the Victorian Era, when selective breeding really took off, that we got the hundreds of distinct breeds we see today. For thousands of years, the line between dog and wolf was blurry. To a certain extent, it remains so today.
As Raymond Pierotti, professor of evolutionary biology at the University of Kansas, put it, ” ‘wild’ and ‘domesticated’ exist as concepts along a continuum, and the boundary between them is often blurred—and, at least in the case of wolves, it was never clear to begin with.”
The Howling Call of the Wild
Just like wolves, modern dogs have many different reasons for howling. If your dog is a howler, they might be trying to call you to come to them. Either that, or they might be signalling toward something they’ve found. They might also be trying to bond with a pack (even if that “pack” is just an ambulance or fire truck siren).
Dogs might howl if they’re hurt or sick, or if they’re feeling separation anxiety. And like so many dog behaviors, they might simply howl to get your attention. But it’s no coincidence that the dogs who share more DNA with wolves also happen to howl more often than other canines.
For all this, modern dogs do not need to howl. For wolves, a successful hunt might be the difference between life and death. For our comfy, cozy dogs…not so much. So while they may have many different reasons and instincts for howling, none of these reasons really answers the question, “Why do dogs howl?”
No, the answer to that quandary lies thousands of years in the past, with their wolf ancestors and the unique process of domestication that led to the creation of man’s best friend. Dogs howl because they’re man-made, and, like so many man-made things, they can’t be divorced from their wilder origins. Selective breeding over thousands of years has made types of dogs that are suited for a wide variety of things—from hunting to herding and more—but they’re still too closely related to their ancestors for the heart of a wolf to have disappeared completely.
In that way, a dog’s howl really is exactly what it sounds like: The call of the wild.
Real Or Fake? Found Footage Horror And The Staging of Controversy
In a time before the internet, when entertainment options were limited to what could be found on the shelves of video rental stores, you might hear whispers among groups of friends about a film that couldn’t be found in your local Blockbuster, and could only be passed around among friends—because it was allegedly real footage of a team of filmmakers being stalked and massacred by a tribe of killers in the Amazon rainforest.
That film was Cannibal Holocaust, and the morbid fascination it sparked has to do not only with the fact that it purports to be made of found footage, but also that it was banned in many countries after its release. The film, released in 1980, is about an anthropologist tasked with finding a missing American documentary film crew who had been working in the Amazon rainforest. The story of the anthropologist’s journey acts as something of a framing device for the “main attraction”—graphic, purported “found” footage that exposes the documentary crew’s practice of staging horrific scenes, and also depicts the crew attacking and murdering a girl from the local tribe, only to be massacred in retaliation. The misdeeds of the documentary crew, along with the commentary by the anthropologist character are used as a way of attempting to make the film a critique of exploitative journalism. The director, Ruggero Deodate, was said to be influenced by the infamous Italian Red Brigades—he believed that the media had staged some of the more dramatic incidents of terrorism that they’d shown.
For obvious reasons, Cannibal Holocaust garnered a lot of attention and controversy when it was released, due to its graphic nature and its purported use of found footage. After its massive success on the first weekend it was released, Italian authorities attempted to confiscate the film, but Deodato had arranged to have it covertly distributed to other countries. Deodato was arrested on obscenity charges, and later even was brought in on murder charges when persistent rumors that the film featured real live murders became too much for police to ignore. Although those charges were dropped, the graphic nature of the film led to it being banned in multiple countries.
Controversy Leads To Dollars
Of course, all of the abovementioned incidents only served to draw more attention to the film, and the filmmakers courted this controversy as a means of marketing the film. In order to make the “found footage” portion seem as real as possible, the actors portraying the documentary crew had a clause in their contracts which stipulated that they not appear in other movies for a year following the film’s release, leading to questions about their whereabouts and lending veracity to claims that they had, in fact, died on camera. In order to prove that he’d not harmed the cast members, Deodato ended up putting investigators in contact with the (very much alive) actors and having to testify as to how certain gruesome special effects were orchestrated. He also went on to challenge bans of the film for years after its release.
Despite the disproval of the film’s claim to having been composed of found footage, in a time before Wikipedia, salacious rumors about the content of the film spread like wildfire, giving it instant cult status and driving people to find and share bootleg copies of it, including alternate or edited versions. The mystique surrounding the film was undeniable—and it was only a matter of time until it was recreated.
Who Decides What’s Real?
Much as it did in Cannibal Holocaust, the idea of presenting “found footage” as real found its niche in the horror genre, where it was able to present the most shocking, salacious, and graphic content of all as real, increasing the effect of the onscreen violence on the credulous viewer. Of course, how well that effect actually worked depended on the film, and for many years, the found
footage trope was primarily used in little-seen B-horror films, including such creatively titled gems like Alien Abduction: Incident in Lake County and Guinea Pig 2: Flower of Flesh and Blood. In the early 90s, Charlie Sheen was given a copy of Guinea Pig 2, and reported it to the FBI, as he believed what he was watching on screen was real. Much as Deodato had once been forced to the do the same, producer Hideshi Hino was forced to prove that the killing featured onscreen was an act.
The genre didn’t get much further attention until the dawn of the age of the internet—the era of HTML 2.0, when usage was expanding rapidly among family households, but before the web was dominated by Google, Amazon, and assorted social media networks. It wasn’t uncommon for film distributors to set up websites for upcoming releases—hello, famously still existent Space Jam site—but one film set itself apart from the rest in that period, using the mystique of the found footage genre and the power of the internet to become a marketing juggernaut: 1999’s The Blair Witch Project.
A Global Phenomenon
The conceit of The Blair Witch Project is well-known—a team of documentary filmmakers goes missing while investigating a figure of local renown called the Blair Witch, and the footage they left behind is later found and cobbled together by investigators searching for clues about their fate. The filmmakers emphasized the supposed veracity of the found footage during every party of the filmmaking process, from casting unknown actors to the marketing touch of the official website featuring fake police reports that “documented” the disappearances. When the film screened at Sundance, missing persons posters were produced with the casts’ faces. The Blair Witch filmmakers also produced a short “documentary” about the legend that the crew in the film investigates which aired before The Blair Witch Project was released.
The overall effect was that the film became a huge success—the website and the questions over the reality of it all made it a viral success before the word “viral” was ever used in that context. Its legacy is as impressive as its financial and critical success, as it inspired numerous other films in the horror genre, including Paranormal Activity, REC, and V/H/S. Of course, there’s also the scores of less successful B-level “found footage” horror films that it spawned in its wake, as well as its two underwhelming sequels.
While the “hype” around the idea of these purported found footage films has died down in the 20 years since the release of The Blair Witch Project, the interest in films like this speaks to the audience’s desire for something real and authentic in their scares—something new, that they’ve never seen before, something more life-changing than your regular haunted house, creepy doll, or simply jump scare. These found footage films represented a new possibility—but whether it’s one that ultimately failed or succeeded will be decided by whether the conceit continues to be used or is replaced in the future of horror films.
How To Tell If Someone Is Lying: Tips From The Experts
How To Tell If Someone Is Lying
Catching a liar is an age-old problem. We’re limited by the complex mysteries of the human brain. As a result, our inner thoughts are often inscrutable to others, and vice versa.
So, can we really tell if someone is lying, even if the fibber is someone we love and have known for years? There’s good news and bad news. We can all learn how to read the signs for when even the best liar is telling a huge whopper—but beware; lie detection takes a lot of practice, and it’s not always reliable.
There are, however, things you can learn to improve your lie-detecting abilities. Without further ado (and with no word of a lie) here are the ways some truth experts employ to tell if someone is lying.
No Means Yes When You’re a Liar
How can you catch a liar? Sometimes our body language gives us away when we’re telling a white lie, a small fib, or a big whopper of untruth. One frequent way this happens is when someone accidentally nods their head “Yes” even when they’re saying “No.”
Granted, considering many cultures have opposite head movements for “Yes” and “No,” you’re going to want to make sure you know who you’re talking to with this tip before you accuse them of lying.
Hiding and Lying
Another way to tell if someone is lying is to see if they cover their mouth and their eyes while they’re telling the fib. This may be an unconscious reaction to “cover” the lie up, and to keep any potential listeners from “unearthing” the truth.
Sometimes, liars might even close their eyes while telling a lie, or else look away—after all, the eyes are the windows to the (liar’s) soul.
I’ve Got a Lie in My Throat
Liars get choked up too—and that’s actually another way to tell if someone is lying. We all get a tickle in our throats from time to time, but when a liar is in the middle of telling a fib, they will sometimes loudly clear their throats, or even swallow hard. That’s a sign that a lie is in the making.
This might be yet another subconscious tick, or perhaps lying just gives some guilty parties a dry throat.
The Fibber Caught Red-Handed
A further way to tell if someone is lying is to watch if they consistently put their hand to their face. Just as liars will sometimes cover up their mouth or eyes, they might also use their hands to touch their face excessively, like pulling at their ears or touching their lips. Sometimes, liars might also bite or lick their lips, or otherwise perform anxious lying gestures.
This excessive fidgeting happens because lying creates a spike in our anxiety, even if we happen to be a seasoned liar. This rise in anxiety often drains the blood from our extremities, causing itching or a need to fidget. The liar might even start fidgeting with their hands, which is yet another sign of a lie.
A Well-Groomed Deception
One more for the lie detection bank: This anxiety might also cause the liar to perform grooming gestures on themselves, whether it be to sort out their clothes, wipe the (lying) sweat off of their foreheads, or re-straighten some of their surroundings, like an errant pencil lying on a table.
Lying experts consider all of this a potential indication of a lie, and you should be on the lookout for it when you confront your own liar.
Has This All Been a Lie?
So, now you’ve got a great body language toolkit to expose the liars in your life—but it’s time for a bit of a reality check. Although expert researchers can use these signs to sniff out a liar and their lies, a lot of these body languages are notoriously difficult to notice and then diagnose—and a lot of times, even the experts are wrong.
One alternative—but still unpredictable—way to tell if someone is lying has less to do with the liar’s body language and more to do with the form and content of their lie, since body cues can be weak, or so fleeting as to be unnoticeable.
The Deceiver’s Pause
One other good way to tell if someone is lying, for example, is to wait and see if they pause before answering your question. While you might think that pausing means someone is lying, it’s actually the opposite: a pause might mean they’re telling the truth, and a fluid response indicates they could be lying.
Think about it: how well do you remember every detail of what you did yesterday? If someone asked you to tell the truth about it, you’d probably have to take a moment to collect your thoughts.
Liars, on the other hand, often don’t need pauses in their speech when answering questions because they’ve already got their fib locked and loaded. So if your loved one doesn’t pause when you ask, “Where were you last night?” they might very well be lying.
The Contempt Is a Lie
There are also clues in what the liar is saying. If the person is vague about the details of their story or speaks only in incoherent fragments, you may have a lie on your hands. Other content clues that a lie is afoot: The liar uses “qualifying language” like “I swear to God,” or “in all honesty” to try to get you to believe the lie by overemphasizing “truth.” In the same vein, liars also like to use superlatives such as “totally” and “absolutely” when telling their lies.
The liar might also refuse to give you any material to work with, shutting down the conversation and keeping himself or herself from being caught in a lie. Otherwise, even if they do keep talking, they might do so with disdain, making you feel as if you are the one in the wrong for thinking they are lying.
But don’t lose hope if the liar gets upset, there is also one last, great trick most experts use to tell if someone is lying…
Tell That Lie to Me Again
To tell if someone is lying, many researchers ask them to tell their lie backward. This forces the liar to work harder to remember their narrative. If someone is telling the truth, they will have very little difficulty doing this. After all, it actually happened, so the memory is cemented in our brains.
But if it’s all a lie and it didn’t actually take place, it’s also more difficult to “remember”—and this extra degree of difficulty can open up the liar to making mistakes or even confessing their lies.
So with this last genius trick, now you know what to do the next time you meet a really good liar.
Caught In The Act
In the end, catching a liar red-handed in their lie is difficult to do. Even when examining both body language and content recall, we can still fail to really nail the liar. In fact, sometimes the sign of a skilled liar is their lack of tells. They may act super disinterested and still, offer up no body language cues, or else they may have rehearsed their story so that they know it backwards and forwards, with very little pauses or confused chronology.
In cases like these, you have one final weapon in your arsenal: your gut. In fact, studies have shown that our gut feelings about lying and liars are actually often right. So take a good, long look at that (possibly) lying loved one and ask yourself: do you believe them?
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